Date Night 101: Anniversary Edition

Mark and I have been married for four years today. In four years, I’ve learned a lot about being a wife. I’ve actually attempted to cook a couple of times, and I’m proud to say that we actually ate a few of the meals I’ve made. Thankfully Mark isn’t picky (at all) or I would be in big trouble.

Marriage has not only helped me learn to cook and clean, but it has helped me get to know Mark Baker a lot better.

I’ve learned that Mark is a morning person and I am definitely a night owl. As a result, I should not try to have a heart to heart with him at midnight even though I am wide awake. The poor guy is a great listener and tries so hard to stay awake, but most likely he will end up passed out on his pillow before I’m done talking. Sometimes I know he’s probably slobbering on his pillow, and yet I keep talking. I need to read more verses about being slow to speak.

I’ve learned that Mark is a very diligent and self-disciplined man. He is a great servant leader, and he truly loves the Lord. I’ve learned a lot about Mark and about marriage, and we’ve been able to have so much fun together. Here are some of the highlights from the past four years.

First we got married and then Mark and I went on fun adventures all over the world. A few of our favorite places to visit were Israel, Egypt, Cozumel, and South Korea.

Soon after some of our travels, we both graduated from college.

After graduation, we both got jobs and bought a house. (I almost spelled horse right there, but thankfully we didn’t buy a horse, because I don’t know what we would do with one of those.)

With a house full of rooms, we figured we needed a few children. It is crazy but I have been pregnant three times in our four years of marriage. Elias and Owen are a blast, and we are so thankful for their lives. We still miss our first little baby, but we will rejoice when we get to be together in heaven.

Mark and I have attended the same church our whole marriage which has been an incredible blessing. We’ve been mentored by older and wiser couples, and have been challenged by the word of God. We are so thankful for the body of Christ.

Mark has his first real teaching job. He is doing what he loves by teaching Bible and English. I also have my dream job by getting to stay home and take care of my sweet blessings.

We’ve been able to do a lot together and are so thankful for January 4th 2008. On January 4th, God united us. On that day we committed to stay together until death separates us. In a culture like ours that has such a low, casual, or even a take-it-or-leave-it kind of an attitude about marriage, many believe that marriage is solely about making oneself happy, or feeling in love. This may seem ludicrous to many people, but marriage is not about staying in love, it is about covenant keeping (John Piper, This Momentary Marriage, 102). Marriage is “about portraying something true about Jesus and the way he relates to his people” (26). A man and a woman joined in marriage represent the relationship between Jesus and the church.

I am so thankful Jesus has brought Mark and I together because it has helped me know Him more. It has helped me understand his love for his bride- the church. It has helped me understand that God is a great covenant keeper. My prayer for our marriage it that we would faithfully keep the covenant we made on January 4th.

Because today is Mark and I’s anniversary, I wanted to share a fun date night idea that we do once a year.

Date Night Idea #4: Watch Your Wedding Video/ Remember Your Vows

It is so easy to forget the words that we promised each other on our wedding day, so once a year Mark and I will pull out our wedding video and remember the vows we made. We always end up laughing about all the crazy things that happened at the wedding, and how nervous we both were. Watching the wedding is a great reminder of the commitment we made.

So for a date night, pull out your wedding video. If you don’t have a video, look at your wedding pictures and remember the vows that you made to one another. It is really fun.

“What therefore God has joined together, let no man put asunder” (Matt. 19:6).