Grief Undone | A Book Review

I’m always a little scared to pick up a book about grief, because I don’t want to feel sad by the time I finish it. I am happy that “Grief Undone” was a breathtakingly honest yet hopeful account of how Elizabeth and Al Groves walked with God through Al’s terminal cancer. I put the book down in awe of Jesus sustaining a family. I turned the last page with a heart that was worshiping God – who really works things out for the good of His people.

Story-driven and real, “Grief Undone” retells the Grove’s true story and includes many Scripture saturated reflections, blogs, prayers, and pictures of how faith transforms the human heart even while experiencing suffering.

More than just chronically one family’s story, “Grief Undone” (released March 16, 2015 by New Growth Press) tells a story about Jesus- who is with his people in every circumstance. This book displays the beauty of God’s sustaining love for his people through trails that seem almost unbearable. This family was not undone by grief, as it threatens, but they were sustained by the grace of God. They knew his presence.

Reflecting back on her story, Elizabeth said, “ As I look back from this distance, several years later, my single, overriding impression is just that: that God was with us in every possible way. He fed our souls from the Bible. His Holy Spirit spoke to our hearts and reminded us of his wonderful promises. And he loved us through people who helped and supported us” (2).

“Grief Undone” avoided being preachy and didn’t easily dismiss the real pain that people experience through loss. Instead this family models healthy, God-honoring grief that is practical for those who are suffering.

While the family established a new ground rule after hearing cancer diagnosis that “it is always always okay to cry” that same night Al who was terminally ill told a friend, “Nothing has changed. He meant in terms of God still being our Father who loved us and who always always chose what was best for us- and who alone know what “best” really meant” (22).

Few books hold the tension of present sadness and future hope at the same time, but Elizabeth did and modeled that beautifully. This family trusts in God’s sovereignty, yet gives permission to really grieve over loss. They know that God can be trusted despite their intense emotions.

This book was encouraging, Christ-centered, real, and honest. I enjoyed this amazing testimony of the grace of God.